gentlewomen-style:

eatbarberrypieordie:

Lesbians (1850 - 1930) 

Love, love is everywhere.

Reblog

Little things about Applying to jobs:

They can’t require that I disclose my gender on applications, which is good because they don’t have an option for me anyway.

Do they really have to ask me every question already on my resume, and ALSO require a resume? I suspect they are avoiding spam or something, but can’t we just do a “prove you’re human” instead?

verdigrisfemme:

liathwen:

salomeideal:

8point6seconds:

adventuresintimeandspace:

Here are some scientific facts about blood loss for all you psychopaths writers out there.

I would like to know what is in those bottles. 

It’s Siracha!!!! Siracha is life!

That’s actually highly useful.

Reblogging mostly because I think this will be useful for my novel project that is slowly coming into being, but also because sriracha is going to be scarce soon, you fools, so why are you wasting it???

blood tw bodily fluids tw writing reference gore tw?

outforhealth:

albinwonderland:

sinidentidades:

The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology has dealt a devastating blow to the notion that men and women are fundamentally different when it comes to how they think and act.

“Although gender differences on average are not under dispute, the idea of consistently and inflexibly gender-typed individuals is,” Bobbi J. Carothers of Washington University in St. Louis and Harry T. Reis of the University of Rochester explained in their study. “That is, there are not two distinct genders, but instead there are linear gradations of variables associated with sex, such as masculinity or intimacy, all of which are continuous.”

Analyzing 122 different characteristics from 13,301 individuals in 13 studies, the researchers concluded that differences between men and women were best seen as dimensional rather than categorical. In other words, the differences between men and women should be viewed as a matter of degree rather than a sign of consistent differences between two distinct groups.

SHOCKING

#not, #it’s almost like we’re the same species or something.

Can the idea that male and female brains are basically the same open up a larger conversation about gender spectrum

Shock. Awe.

overlapping bell curves

The Limitations of Romantic Orientation

bessibels:

anagnori:

Sometimes I think the asexual community takes the idea of “romantic orientation” too seriously. Heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, aromantic - this is a model we invented by copying the divisions of the usual Western sexual orientation model. And those divisions originated from historical precedent and cultural biases, they aren’t a hard fact of nature.

When we identify with a sexual or romantic orientation, we are looking at a natural phenomenon (emotions and behavior) and grouping it into an artificial, socially-defined category. That’s not to say that these categories are useless or meaningless. Most of us do get a personal benefit from being able to understand ourselves as gay, straight, bi, asexual, etc., and that’s enough to make these categories worth keeping around.

So, I definitely think “romantic orientations” are good concepts to have available. But we should keep in mind that they are artificial distinctions, not natural ones, and we can’t assume that these distinctions will make sense for every person’s feelings.

I looked at the 2011 asexual community survey again. A full 29% of respondents did not identify with one of the “usual” romantic orientations:

Heteroromantic: 22%
Homoromantic: 6%
Androgynoromantic: 1%
Other monoromantic: 4%
Bi/Panromantic: 22%
Aromantic: 16%
Other: 29%

The “Other” category breaks down like this:

My romantic orientation is fluid: 33%
There is no difference between romantic and non-romantic attraction to me: 8%
I am demiromantic: 16%
I am gray-romantic: 13%
I am unsure at this time: 40%
Other (write-in): 11%

So this means there’s a significant number of asexual-spectrum people who don’t know their romantic orientation:

29% x 40% = 11.6% of all respondents

And another big portion for whom romantic orientation is best described as “fluid”:

29% x 33% = 9.6% of all respondents

And some others who feel no difference between romantic and non-romantic attraction:

29% x 8% = 2.3%

That’s a good 23.5%, or more than of fifth of the entire community that responded, for whom the concept of “romantic orientation” might not really work. I think we need to talk about these people and their experiences more.

And many people are aromantic-spectrum but don’t identify as strictly aromantic:

29% x (16+13)% = 8.4%

It’s difficult for most aromantic-spectrum people to figure out their romantic orientation. That makes me wonder whether the model we’re using is the best one possible, or the only one that we need. Perhaps some people would find it more useful to think of themselves as romance-enjoying, romance-indifferent or romance-repulsed. Or perhaps they would find it easier to define their lifestyle as nonamorous instead of trying to work out if their orientation is aromantic or not.

So while “romantic orientation” is a useful concept for most asexual-spectrum people, I think the community as a whole is too hasty to assume that it applies to everyone. I’d like to see more “asexual education” and “asexuality 101” materials that point out the fact that you don’t have to identify your romantic orientation if you don’t want to. It’s important to distinguish it as a concept, so that people have a clearer idea of what asexuality is, but we shouldn’t give asexual-spectrum people the impression that they must fit into a romantic orientation category.

At the very least, I know there are a lot of people who are relieved to discover the concept of “WTFromantic” - coined for people who aren’t sure what their romantic orientation is, who don’t perceive a clear difference between feelings of romance and friendship, or for whom “romantic orientation” does not apply.

I’d love to see someone talk about how cultural differences and Western-centrism are relevant to this. Does anyone have thoughts?

I really appreciate that there are conversations in the asexual community in which the complexities of human attraction are teased out.

I love these discussions, they are really freaking cool and I think they need to happen in other places/communities as well.

fattyforever:

curvily:

How often have you been shopping and you come across something that is just PERFECT, but does not go up to your size? Over 60% of American women wear a size 14 or above, but only 17% of clothing sold is 14 & up. That is a ridiculous disparity.
Moreover, when some brands move into plus (ahem H&M), they throw their signature trendy looks by the wayside in favor of flowy dark fabrics that they think “work” for plus sizes. That is crap. Plus size women want color, print, and structure. Moreover, we want variety. A group this numerous cannot be a monolith, and since style is such a personal thing, we all have different tastes. I want #plussizeplease to be a way to showcase the demand for styles we’d buy and rock, and all the money brands are forfeiting by refusing to expand their sizes.
So here’s how to use it:
1) Snap a picture of a garment you love but does not come in your size. Include the brand and price, tagging the company if possible. For example, I am in love with this Zara marble print dress. I would have purchased it yesterday if it went above a size L. My tweet would be:
“.@Zara marble print sheath, $59. I’d buy it right now if it came in my size. #plussizeplease”
2) Use it on any social media – Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest… even Facebook supports hashtags now.
3) Tag anything you’d purchase, whether in store or online.
4) Feel free to include the size range it comes in and/or the size you think you’d need. Sizing can be tricky, so this is definitely not required.
5) Tell your friends! I don’t just want this to be a blogger thing – I want all women who wear size 14 and up to show their purchasing power and share styles they love. Let’s be unignorable!


Um, yes. I will be doing this.

fattyforever:

curvily:

How often have you been shopping and you come across something that is just PERFECT, but does not go up to your size? Over 60% of American women wear a size 14 or above, but only 17% of clothing sold is 14 & up. That is a ridiculous disparity.

Moreover, when some brands move into plus (ahem H&M), they throw their signature trendy looks by the wayside in favor of flowy dark fabrics that they think “work” for plus sizes. That is crap. Plus size women want color, print, and structure. Moreover, we want variety. A group this numerous cannot be a monolith, and since style is such a personal thing, we all have different tastes. I want #plussizeplease to be a way to showcase the demand for styles we’d buy and rock, and all the money brands are forfeiting by refusing to expand their sizes.

So here’s how to use it:

1) Snap a picture of a garment you love but does not come in your size. Include the brand and price, tagging the company if possible. For example, I am in love with this Zara marble print dress. I would have purchased it yesterday if it went above a size L. My tweet would be:

“.@Zara marble print sheath, $59. I’d buy it right now if it came in my size. #plussizeplease”

2) Use it on any social media – Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest… even Facebook supports hashtags now.

3) Tag anything you’d purchase, whether in store or online.

4) Feel free to include the size range it comes in and/or the size you think you’d need. Sizing can be tricky, so this is definitely not required.

5) Tell your friends! I don’t just want this to be a blogger thing – I want all women who wear size 14 and up to show their purchasing power and share styles they love. Let’s be unignorable!

Um, yes. I will be doing this.

Anonymous asked:

Help. I keep getting into horrible toxic relationships because I hate myself an I need validation. Eventually they all leave because I'm no longer useful. I hate myself and I know once someone calls me pretty I'll do whatever they want and the process will restart. I feel worthless, how can I learn to love myself and not need validation? or at least stop the process of doing everything someone wants me to so I don't feel alone and worthless?

pervocracy:

You need more help than I can give with a few lines on the Internet.  I would really like you to try one of these options to find someone to talk to.

But I will tell you what I believe.

You are not worthless.  You’re priceless.

A chair you can sit in has worth; a chair you can’t sit in is worthless.  But you are not a chair.  You were not created to be sat on.  You are not a thing, a tool, or a possession.  You are a human being.

I don’t even want to tell you “yes, you have worth,” because that would be telling you that there’s a contest and you won it, and that’s not true.  The truth is there’s no contest at all.  Human beings don’t have price tags or quality stamps, don’t exist on a ranking from “best” to “worst.”  We simply are.  We experience life.  Whether or not some other person thinks you’re useful to them doesn’t change that.  You’re a human being and you don’t have to earn your existence.  You’re already good enough.

If you never do anything at all with your life except live it, you will be good enough.

cubstearns:

amischiefofmice:

orfs:

averyterrible:

thisplaceisdespair:

flatluigi:

stormingtheivory:

So can we talk about the absolutely stunning duplicity going on here?

holy shit

ok, why the fuck is the graph upside down. that is incredibly misleading

Because its from the Florida Department of Justice, and they have a mandate here.

for those who have trouble inverting it in their head, ftfy:


this is some of the most blatant twisting of info i have ever seen holy shit


God I hate Florida

cubstearns:

amischiefofmice:

orfs:

averyterrible:

thisplaceisdespair:

flatluigi:

stormingtheivory:

So can we talk about the absolutely stunning duplicity going on here?

holy shit

ok, why the fuck is the graph upside down. that is incredibly misleading

Because its from the Florida Department of Justice, and they have a mandate here.

for those who have trouble inverting it in their head, ftfy:

image

this is some of the most blatant twisting of info i have ever seen holy shit

God I hate Florida

lalondes:

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DON’T SCROLL PAST THIS.
Scarleteen is a vital queer and trans positive sexual health resource. Their staff do an amazing job of creating really comprehensive and helpful articles on literally every sexual topic you can imagine. They also provide live chats, advice columns, moderated discussion forums, and SMS-based peer support. This site has helped me on countless occasions, and I refer at-risk queer and trans kids to this site every single day.
Scarleteen is invaluable.
And Scarleteen needs your help.
During their annual donation drive this year, the site was only able to raise $1,500. Only fifty people out of Scarleteen’s 350,000 unique monthly visitors contributed to the fundraising drive.
This means that unless Scarleteen sees a stable, sustained, 50% increase in donations, the site will essentially be forced to go dark on May 1. No more new content, no more advice columns, no more forums, no more live chat, no more SMS support. 
This is devastating.
If Scarleteen goes dark, millions of young people, vulnerable queer and trans teens among them, will lose access to essential, fundamental sexual health resources. We cannot let this happen.
Please, please, please donate to Scarleteen. Consider making a recurring monthly contribution if you feel that this is within your means. Even $5 or $10 a month will go a long way to helping this very, very deserving organization.
And whether or not you’re able to donate at this time, please signal boost this and spread the word. Scarleteen does incredible, very necessary work, and they need our help.

lalondes:

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DON’T SCROLL PAST THIS.

Scarleteen is a vital queer and trans positive sexual health resource. Their staff do an amazing job of creating really comprehensive and helpful articles on literally every sexual topic you can imagine. They also provide live chats, advice columns, moderated discussion forums, and SMS-based peer support. This site has helped me on countless occasions, and I refer at-risk queer and trans kids to this site every single day.

Scarleteen is invaluable.

And Scarleteen needs your help.

During their annual donation drive this year, the site was only able to raise $1,500. Only fifty people out of Scarleteen’s 350,000 unique monthly visitors contributed to the fundraising drive.

This means that unless Scarleteen sees a stable, sustained, 50% increase in donations, the site will essentially be forced to go dark on May 1. No more new content, no more advice columns, no more forums, no more live chat, no more SMS support. 

This is devastating.

If Scarleteen goes dark, millions of young people, vulnerable queer and trans teens among them, will lose access to essential, fundamental sexual health resources. We cannot let this happen.

Please, please, please donate to Scarleteen. Consider making a recurring monthly contribution if you feel that this is within your means. Even $5 or $10 a month will go a long way to helping this very, very deserving organization.

And whether or not you’re able to donate at this time, please signal boost this and spread the word. Scarleteen does incredible, very necessary work, and they need our help.

whatdoesenbymean:

Did anyone else notice that the nonbinary recognition Whitehouse petition is complete now? As of last night we have enough signatures.

Still, I’d prefer we stopped putting sexes/genders on official documents.l altogether. Nobody needs to know but your doctor tbh.
That way…

I’ve just heard nb POC saying they’re concerned having a “queer” gender on their ID documents might set them up for even more police harassment.

Like, I’m nonbinary and I love the idea of not being “legally female” anymore, but it seems like we’re fighting to be included in an oppressive system instead of breaking down the system.